I get it! Scheduling sex or making time for intimacy in a relationship can seem unsexy or too planned. But we prioritize everything else! We put appointments, dates with friends, trips, work events, and kids stuff into our calendars. So why does it sound so strange to also schedule in some one on one with your partner?
Sex often gets pushed down in a list of things to do. After a long day of work or busy week, trying to be present and engaged in sex can be challenging. But if you have sex in your calendar, you might think about it more, maybe notice sexual stimuli in your surroundings and you might even talk about it more often with your partner.
Here are some tips to scheduling sex:
1. Sit down with your partner, pull out your schedules and figure out time in your busy weeks when you can schedule sex. It doesn’t have to be the same each week, but talk about what works best for both of you. Does sex make more sense in the evening or are you morning people? What about weekends when you’ve had some time to relax?
2. What do you want to do? Make these moments something to look forward to by talking about the things you want to try or the things you love. Then incorporate them!
3. If something comes up, don’t worry! Sickness, stress, or family stuff happen and that’s just life. Just reschedule!
4. Check in with yourself. How are you feeling day of? Is there anything you need to do to relax or let go of your day? Are you feeling connected to your partner? What do you need?
5. Lastly, have fun! Enjoy yourself. Enjoy this time with your partner.
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