“Your hand touching mine. This is how galaxies collide.” -Sanober Khan
Let’s dive in to romance! What does romance look or feel like to you? What is it?
For me, romance is about feeling this deep connection to my partner. It’s about attention, thoughtfulness and feeling cared for. It doesn’t have to be some grand gesture of flowers and jewelry, but could just be some late night pillow talk, or even making me a bomb ass breakfast on a Saturday morning, just because. I feel romance in those moments where I catch myself pausing and thinking about how much I love this silly human in front of me. Romance is in the cards he writes me for birthdays, anniversaries, special occasions, where his little messages make me feel so loved. Romance is when we hop in the shower together and snuggle up under the hot water or when he runs back to our bedroom to give me a kiss before he heads off to work. Romance is when he always remembers that I really do want the french fries when we go out, no matter what! Sometimes him being romantic takes the air out of me because it happens when I least expect it and sometimes when I need it the most. It’s really these little gestures that I notice and value, that keep me feeling so connected to him.
How does he know? Where did he learn to be romantic? Does he think I’m romantic? I should ask! Sometimes your idea of romance will be different than your partners and that’s okay! It’s okay if something you found romantic at one point in time, changes. Make time to have a conversation of what romance means to you and in what ways you would like to experience it. Let them know what your ideas are and maybe what gestures you’ve imagined to be romantic. Then, let them take those ideas and make it their own.
Romance is intentional and sometimes accidental. It can be serious, it can be intense, it can be sexy, it can be fun and it can be playful. Romance might not look like what we see in movies or tv shows. But it can fill you up with all kinds of goodness when you are smack dab in the middle of a romantic moment.
The point here is really to practice being romantic and here’s a few things to take away:
1. Romance looks and feels different to everyone. Let’s normalize this!
2. Make romance a priority in your relationship and it will help you to stay connected to your partner.
3. Romance can make your partner feel desired, loved, and cared for, so why not practice it more!
4. Communicate about romance with your partner.
5. Romantic gestures don’t need to be huge.
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